But that did not make me love him any less, and did nothing to tamper the absolute devastation that pummeled me when we broke up. I’ve known Kirsten for 12 years, and even though she lives on the other side of the country, we remain very close and she knows all my shit. As I talked and sobbed and blubbered and talked some more it all came out.Even months after we split, Sundays when my kids are with their dad and I would have otherwise spent with my ex-boyfriend, I instead engaged in unseemly behavior like walking around the streets of Manhattan while bawling uncontrollably, listening to John Legend on a loop and reading the on Carrie and Mr. Not only was all this embarrassing, it was also incongruous with the events at hand. Besides the end of my relationship, my mom has been unwell.“But I said to myself, ‘I hope this girl can find time to process it all.Because sooner or later it will catch up with her.’”It has caught up with me.

Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.I am just one person responsible for two human beings.It feels like too much.“We’ve all watched you over the past few years be so strong and amazing,” Kirsten said.